Sad time for me

barbara12

Hi Linda
I will be thinking about you tomorrow, and hope it helps to know that we are all here for you.

valval

sending positive thoughts to help you through val

magenta

Hello Legs,

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow,

Eileen xxx

lindalegs

Thank you, you're lovely people. I'll have you all in my pocket for tomorrow, so no squabbling please otherwise Val will squeal at the wrong time. You may all sing to me in a quiet cyber-like way. The Lord's My Shepherd would be really lovely.

I have plenty of hankies at the ready. I'm dreading it really.

My next post is where I've indulged myself and written down some of the memories of the man he was. It doesn't matter if no one reads it but I'm glad I've done it.

Take care all, love

lindalegs

MEMORIES OF DAD

Never handling us as babies because of his big clumsy hands.

Climbing on his knee for a bedtime story of 'Lizzie Dripping' who lived in my hot water bottle!

Shoulder rides when my little legs were too tired to walk any further.

Tucking the covers of my bed really tightly and shaking the bed till I shook with laughter.

Smelling of beer when he came home from the pub at night.

Teaching me how to ride my bike.

Teaching me a love of books.

Giving me sixpence on a Saturday and Sunday to spend on sweets.

Running two allotments to feed his five children and selling leftovers to neighbours for a few extra bob.

Getting splinters out of his fingers carefully with a needle.

Helping to shell the sackful of garden peas picked from his allotment.

Being sent to sit on the stairs for giggling too much at the dinner table.

Having two jobs when money was tight.

Asking him to write in my autograph book and he put 'To my only Boney' (I was a very thin child).

Family card games of Pontoon and Slippery Ace at Christmas time, playing for buttons.

Wheeling his bike into the lounge on Mum's best carpet to mend his puncture.

Always eating his dinner with a tablespoon so he could get all the gravy.

Writing me a poem for my English homework when I was 'stuck'.

Making me eat round a dead caterpillar on my dinner plate.

Being so cross at him because he made me sew a button on his coat delaying me going out.

Laughing heartily at Marty Feldman or Morecambe and Wise on the telly.

Always being there with sound advice when needed.

Filling the back garden full of flowers for my Mum even though he could only see black and white.

Walking down the aisle on my wedding day with my arm tucked in his.

Never hearing him sing (he was tone deaf and hated music).

Play fighting with my boys.

Pushing Mum in her wheelchair.

Never interfering and leaving us to live our lives as adults

.......................and lastly, only four weeks ago, walking on wobbly legs into the back garden to dig me up some fresh carrots for my dinner.


You'll always be in my heart Dad. I'll love you forever.

traluvie

That made me cry.. what lovely memories..


Thinking of you..xx (((((X)))))

magenta

Hi Linda,

That is a lovely post. He was obviously a loving, caring and happy Dad.

Lovely,

love Eileen xx

stickywicket

Magic. Thank you for sharing that with us Legs. I shall read it all again tomorrow.

julie47

Hi Linda I will be in your pocket tomorrow without a doubt

and the memories you have wrote about your dad are lovely
love and hugs

Juliepf xx

frogmorton

I have just bawled me eyes out Dear Legs :sad:

Fantastic memories and so many of them too.

I will of course be there for you tomorrow and l know Cris skez will be too even though she is not 100% atm.

Love and huge brave hugs

Toni xxx

valval

well have lump in my throat and tears in my eyes thankyou for shareing.
we will all be with you and will stick hanky in my mouth so no worries about me squeeling would never embaris you that way will think of others (((()))) val

skezier

oh Legs leaving you a hug and a hope tomorrow will go well and will be in your pocket as well but won't make Val make a sound. more hugs flower. love Cris xx

ironic

Hi Linda,

I just wanted you to know that I will be thinking of you tomorrow. My dad also had very firm views but he was my dad and he loved his children and in his last years we got to be very close.
Those are wonderful memories of your dad and tomorrow he will be watching over you all I am sure.

I x

valval

sh no noise today best behaviore got my best togs on even for pocket sitting can not let the side down.
we are here for you and will sing so sweet and quiet for you ((())) val

traluvie

Thinking of you..xxx

dreamdaisy

(((()))) DD

tkachev

Linda , I will be thinking of you today. I so loved your memories, apart from wheeling his bike onto your Mums new carpet! Got to say he takes after my OH on that one!

Love and hugs, take care of yourself too
Elizabeth xx

julie47

I am thinking of you

(((((((((())))))))))

Juliepf x

woodbon

Dear Linda,
Sending you my heartfelt sympathy.

I think your poem was beautiful, it reminded me of my late Dad.
I know you will be alright and this awful time, the pain will ease, you are strong, strong enough to let your emotions show and thats important. Take care of yourself, love Sue xxxx ((())))xxxx

stickywicket

Hi Legs.

Just these (((( ))))

barbara12

Hi Linda
more hugs and love for you (((())) xx
Barbara x

Poppyg1rl

Huge big hugs Linda, our memories are so precious and they keep our loved ones alive always in our hearts () Xxx

frogmorton

Have been thinking about you Legs all day and wishing you well and the rest of the family too.

see you when you are up to it.

Love

Toni xx

lindalegs

As the car turned into the cemetery so I started crying. I sobbed when I saw his coffin because I couldn't believe my Dad was in that box. Others said it wasn't him, just his shell, but I loved his shell. I know his essence makes it my Dad but it's the shell you recognise, you hold, you love.

My youngest brother wrote and read a brilliant eulogy which made us laugh and made us cry especially at the end when he broke down - I was so proud of him. The humanist was lovely and the service was gentle.

At the wake the tears dried, we shared our memories and laughed. After the hot buffet the table was cleared and the cover removed to reveal a pool table :shock: As the darts team were there and Dad played in his last match only six weeks ago, people were playing darts and pool.

I sent a 'Memories of Dad' book round for everyone to write something in, it was a great success so thanks Val for that suggestion. There were also two photo albums of his life for people to look at.

It was such a fitting send off for him and he would have approved greatly.

I feel much better today and I can smile knowing he's with my Mum wherever that may be.

Thank you to all the people here who were in my pocket and I'm sorry for all the wet hankies but you've done a lovely job of laundering them for me and passing the dry ones up when needed :shock:

Truly thanks for all your messages of support you're a bunch in a million

Lots of love

valval

you are such an amazing person you got through it and did so well am proud of you well done it will take time as you know but we will be here for any sad times val